About Me

  

 I write to rage, to rant, to rave. I write to mourn, to wallow in self-pity. I write to question, but most of all I write to mend my brokenness.

 

 

 

 

 

 “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”   Mary Anne Radmacher

Where ever you are, whatever your circumstances. Never give up trying.

Below is part of an Amnesty International report on Papua New Guinea.”

Two decades ago, Papua New Guinea (PNG) led the way in

the Pacific region in identifying and documenting violence against

women. The statistics below reflect the research conducted at

the time. While this information may now seem dated, more

recent interviews conducted by Amnesty International as part

of a research trip revealed that rates of violence are unlikely

to have decreased and some women’s organisations fear they

may have risen.

• 67% of wives had been beaten by their husbands (national average). (PNG Law Reform Commission 1992)

 • Close to 100% of wives in the Highlands experienced violence by their husbands, but half that for Oro and New Ireland provinces. (PNG Law Reform Commission 1992)

• In urban areas, one of every six women interviewed needed treatment for injuries caused by their husbands. (PNG Law Reform Commission 1992) 

• 55% of women had been forced into sex against their will. (PNG Institute of Medical Research 1994)

• 60% of men interviewed reported having participated in lainap (gang rape) at least once. (PNG Institute of Medical Research 1994)

The statistics and stories may be shocking. However, this only paints part of the picture.

The patriarchal culture in PNG, as elsewhere, means that violence against women is a key way to maintain women’s inequality.

Violence against women is connected to such customs which maintains women’s lower status – as polygamy and bride price. It strengthen men’s belief that they ‘own’ their wives.

Women also face many different types of violence – violence by their husbands and family, rape and gang rape, sexual violence by police, ‘pay back’ violence against women as part

of tribal fighting and ‘sorcery’-related killings.

Yet, instead of offering tangible solutions to violence against women, the PNG Government continues to do little, dwelling on difficulties and a lack of resources. It means little has changed for women since the first research into the issue was conducted 20 years ago.

 

 

49 thoughts on “About Me”

  1. This awesome blog. Keep up the good work.

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  2. Hey Maiya! I’ve missed you on here! Hope everything’s going well :) I just thought I’d let you know that at one point or another, your blog has served as an inspiration to me as I was just starting to write. So I thought I’d nominate you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award!

    http://onwindydays.wordpress.com/2013/01/06/and-one-more/

    Thanks for that :) And keep being awesome!!!

  3. I have nominated you for Reader Appreciation Award check here for details http://willowdot21.wordpress.com/2012/06/04/thank-you-4/

  4. I’m a blogger as in Blogger … you are wordpress as in WordPress … Sadly there is never a respond from you … So be well then, my friend. Love, cat (http://catsruledogsdroole.blogspot.com/)

  5. Hi Maiya, I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award, Congratulations! – please visit my blog for more information ~ Julie :)

  6. i’ve nominated you for the liebster award. i think i put a rather long note on your “about” page :) God bless & love always…
    Anil

  7. I hope that one day, sooner than later, a change will happen. you write beautifuly.. xo

  8. Maiya – I received an email with the title and first two sentences of a post you put up regarding a military takeover this morning. I am hoping that you removed it of your own free will and that you are alright. Thinking of you and hoping you are safe. Hugs my friend.

  9. Hi Maiya,

    I’ve nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award, so please visit me for more info:
    http://lscotthoughts.com/2012/01/16/another-lovely-versatile-blogger-award.
    Lauren xx

  10. I’m shocked by the PNG statistics on domestic violence.
    Do you personally know others in such predicaments. I hope the best for you and loved ones.

    • Almost every woman, I know has been touched by domestic violence in some way. Some more then others. For so long it was seen as a domestic issue (before it became a crime) so the police never stepped in that it became a norm. People don’t see whats all the fuss about, when you say “this is wrong”, because most have gone through it. I guess I’m sensitive so I feel utterly powerless. Writing about it makes me feel I can contribute in someway which takes the sense of helplessness away.

  11. Hi Maiya,

    I nominated you for the Liebster Award because I enjoy your blog, and I think you have something important to say. It looks like you have lots of awards, so don’t feel pressured to respond. Do it only it you want to.

    If you do, these are the rules:

    *Thank the blogger who bestowed the award.
    *Pass it on to five other bloggers, who must have fewer than 200 followers.
    *Notify the nominees.
    *Display the award on your blog.

    Looking forward to more of your posts.

  12. I have nominated you for The Versatile Blogger Award because you bring into light the sad plights of the voiceless, thank you for your contributions to society.
    Specifics are on my blog and have a wonderful holiday!
    AZ

  13. Hi Maiya,

    I have nominated you for the 7×7 Link Award, so please visit my blog at http://lscotthoughts.com/2011/12/24/seven-x-seven-link-award/ for more information.
    Lauren :)

  14. Maiya, i’m just leaving a link if you would like to vote for me please.

    http://thedarkglobe.wordpress.com/2011/12/20/the-inaugural-dark-globes-artist-awards-voting-has-begun/

  15. I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award! Come to my blog and see what you need to do for it.
    Congratulations!

  16. I hope that one day changes. Why do men do that? I’m tired of my sex making up for men’s insecurity. That’s what self-help books are for.

  17. Your poetry is really soulful and brilliant. Thanks for letting me know about your blog. I really appreciate your lovely comment on my blog. :)

    • Thanks Nandini, I’m glad I stumbled on your blog. I liked your photography so much I subscribed. So you will be seeing much more of me. :-)

  18. Truly beautiful poetry here. You have such an honest voice. I’ll be reading :)

  19. Hey Maiya! Thank you for sharing your gift to the world! {{{HUGS}}}

  20. Hi there! Thanks for stopping by my blog! You write some truly heart-wrenching poetry. Keep it up!

  21. Hi Maiya, your poetry is heart touching. I’m sure it will make a difference some day. My prayers will be with you and your people.

  22. Hi Maiya, nice to meet you, and thank you for popping over to my blog!

  23. Maiya, your poetry is so different, disturbing, ranging from beauty to despair. I like it very much. Keep at it. I’m on board.

    • hello Single Malt Monkey,
      nice to meet you and thank you for dropping in. I know what you mean about my writing. Sometimes I’m happy other times I’m in the depths of despair and it can be seen in my poetry. Thanks for not being frightened away and jumping on board.

  24. You’re poetry is amazing!

  25. Hi – we’ve nominated you for the The Versatile Award. Thank you for inspiring us… God bless & love always…

  26. Keep writing cuz I enjoy reading it!

  27. Thank you for subscribing to my site, i did likewise for you.

    I have 4 or 5 poetry blogs linked to me i can give you them if you wish and swap blogrolls with them , you will get a lot of hits and more subscribers then.

    Harry

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